Justified

Honest question...how many times have we used something someone else has done to justify our own bad choices? For example, a husband leaves his wife for another woman and blames it on his wife because he wasn't her priority. I went through that, and I've done it myself. We've all done it, but what does it really do to our lives? I believe that using that type of false justification only enables us to feel better about decisions we know we shouldn't make. I also believe that by justifying bad choices on other people's mistakes, we enable ourselves to avoid dealing with issues that need to be dealt with in order for us not to carry baggage. Thats why I don't believe its right for a wife to leave a husband because he got hooked on porn, or a friend to turn their back on another friend because they hurt them. In the end, the actual problems don't get solved and we carry them forward as baggage in our lives. We basically poison our futures. We base decisions on the baggage we carry. The truth is justifying a sin with another sin only leads to more pain and more suffering on all parts. If we face our problems, and handle them in a Christ-like manner, then we are justified in truth....God's truth.

Final

Its been awhile since I've written. The truth is that I really haven't known what to say. I knew my days as a married man were coming to a close soon and I didn't know how to express it. Today was our final court date. I'm now a single man. I'm still digesting all of this, but I just want to thank people like my friends Micah and Gary, and relatives from Val's side of the family, John and Jane. I appreciate their Christian mentorship.

I'm not sure what is going to happen from this day forth. I'm hurting alot but I guess it'll get easier. Ten years of your life is a long time to leave behind, but I have to if I'm ever going to be what God wants me to be.